I am going to start making this space a “blog for mums” so still very much a parenting destination but one that benefits millenial mummies. Where we can talk about important baby topics from our point of view, but also talk about US. Things WE like. Make up, Netflix, Coffee – you know! I want to talk about living a positive life. I want to talk about our mental wellbeing as well as creating a lovely, organised environment for ourselves.
2017 you’ve been kind to me.
As always I like to kick off the year with a reflection post. Reflecting is something that I really don’t think we do enough of. Rarely do I ‘wake up and smell the coffee’ about the good things that have happened, and that, unfortunately, has become worse since becoming a mother!
I’m actually pretty ashamed to admit that but for what will be 24 months by the time my little girl is born, my life has been dictated to by the hormonal changed of two pregnancies and postpartum. I’ve become incredibly stressed and easily overwhelmed which isn’t like me at all. I am normally all about the good vibes.
2017 has been an incredible year. Not only did I grow to love my little boy a lot harder I also got to grow my love by conceiving a little girl. I had my dreams come true by leaving my corporate job and actually managing to make a living from blogging (somebody pinch me!). We finished our home renovation and we travelled.
Did I take in those moments with gratitude though? Nope! I stressed and stressed about nothing and it’s only now that I feel a bit silly.
So, do I have any new years resolutions for 2018?
If I said that I had a heap of resolutions for 2018, it wouldn’t be a lie I DO want to make it my best year ever (standard) but I’m also not naive enough to know that parenting two very small human beings may challenge that.
However, I am fed up with seeing motherhood as a negative thing. I LOVE being a mummy but it’s really easy to get caught up in how hard it is and what you sacrifice. I’m fed up with being a nagging wife and I’m fed up with not celebrating my HUGE achievements.
Like I said, I’m not naive enough to think having “two under two” won’t be filled with days of hiding in the bathroom and pulling my hair out but I want to embrace it as best as possible. I want to start prioritising my mental health so that I can deal with situations in my stride.
I want to learn to breathe and go back to being the calmer version of me.
I’m not unrealistic enough to say “I want to be calm” because HELLO, toddler and a newborn! But I want to learn to let go. If nothing gets done all day, but we get dressed and fed. That will be okay. I don’t want to waste the early days feeling stressed to do more, to be more. I don’t want to remember it as negative and crying (again) because my baby won’t be put down to let me unload the dishwasher. But to remember the cuddles and the newborn scents.
The dishwasher is never bloody empty anyway!
I picked up a copy of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck (if you haven’t read Sarah Knights books, you need too) so that I can embrace the chaos and learn to stop caring about the things I think I should be doing.
Be as organised as possible.
This is a pretty big deal for this blog. I’m naturally quite an unorganised person but I’ve learnt to really manage that since becoming “head of the house” as a mummy if you like? I very rarely let things slip. The house is generally well put together. We have decent food in the house. Rory’s social schedule is to be envied. Our house admin runs smoothly and it certainly isn’t down to Rich.
The man has many incredible qualities but he is a hot mess.
This is something I pride myself on. I do feel nervous about how another small human being in the mix is going to change this dynamic so I want to take steps to make sure I can stay ahead as best as possible. Again I’m not saying ‘I will be organised’ but I want to be as organised as a can be with two small babies.
It’s no secret that I felt I’d lost my personality to motherhood. I lost my interests and allowed motherhood to consume me. I was happy with that arrangement for a long time, but as Rory grew I missed who I used to be. From talking about it that I’m not alone. I’ve seen pregnant people post about how they won’t be that mum, but I think at some point or another it’s fairly inevitable. I have started to become really intentional about staying me. I’ve started taking time out to read books, watch makeup tutorials, listen to music etc and I don’t want that momentum to stop.
What does that mean for this blog?
The content is going to change and I’m excited.
I’ve always used my blog as a platform to document changes in my life as it’s the biggest motivator for me. By writing this post I am allowing my readers and my blog to hold me accountable. (please do!!)
I am going to start making this space a “blog for mums” so still very much a parenting destination but one that benefits millennial mummies. A place we can talk about important baby topics from our point of view, but also talk about US. Things WE like. Make up, Netflix, Coffee – you know! I want to talk about living a positive life. I want to talk about our mental wellbeing as well as creating a lovely, organised environment for ourselves. What do you think?